{"id":8651,"date":"2022-12-02T16:00:24","date_gmt":"2022-12-02T05:00:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/?p=8651"},"modified":"2025-04-24T14:16:39","modified_gmt":"2025-04-24T04:16:39","slug":"how-to-end-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/ar\/blog\/how-to-end-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0643\u064a\u0641\u064a\u0629 \u0625\u062f\u0627\u0631\u0629 \u0627\u0644\u0627\u0646\u0641\u0635\u0627\u0644 \u0623\u0648 \u0627\u0644\u0637\u0644\u0627\u0642"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"8651\" class=\"elementor elementor-8651\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3a0471d6 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"3a0471d6\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2e54bb2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2e54bb2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span lang=\"EN-GB\" xml:lang=\"EN-GB\" data-contrast=\"auto\">Ending a relationship is a very stressful event in anyone\u2019s life. You may be feeling a confusing range of painful emotions or you might be overwhelmed by the practical elements of your breakup. Whether you\u2019re separating from your partner or negotiating a divorce, rest assured, there\u2019s widespread support available to help you move past this difficult period of your life.<\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1452198c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1452198c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><\/p>\n<p>When it comes to separating from a long-term partner, it\u2019s normal to wonder how on earth you\u2019ll manage the practical implications of your break-up, let alone come to terms with the barrage of emotions that seem to assail you at every turn.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Here are some reassuring ideas and resources from counsellors who work in this space, and who have helped lots of other people navigate the intense challenges brought about by separation and divorce.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5db50470 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"5db50470\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8f91168 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8f91168\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>Preparing for the end of a relationship<\/h2>\n<p>It\u2019s often difficult to accept that a long-term relationship is coming to an end. Partnerships and families are complex, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.familyrelationships.gov.au\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">support is often needed<\/a> whether those families are together or separated.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>There are a range of reasons for ending relationships including financial burdens, clashes of opinion or the stresses of raising a family. Although variations in the way partners approach their lives can enrich a relationship, there are a number of signs you should look out for when these differences can\u2019t be resolved.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>When conflict is recurring and it leads to less time together, a lack of intimacy, or dissatisfaction and unhappiness, it may be time to think carefully about the future of your relationship. There are a number of counselling services to help couples <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/group-workshops\/building-better-relationships-for-couples\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">build stronger relationships<\/a>, but when rebuilding or strengthening relationships seems unlikely, the first step to moving on with your life may be <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/how-to-know-when-to-get-divorced\/\">accepting the idea that a relationship needs to end.<\/a>\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-254a449e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"254a449e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>Having strong, painful feelings is a normal reaction to separation<\/h2>\n<p>People experiencing separation or divorce can feel enraged, fearful, insecure or rejected when their relationship is ending. On the flip side, others might feel remorseful, guilty, relieved or ambivalent. Many people experience intense feelings of confusion.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>These emotions can lead to:\u00a0<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"2\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:360,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\">High and low mood swings\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"2\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:360,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Eating too much, not eating enough, or drinking more alcohol\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"2\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:360,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Nightmares, sleeplessness or extreme fatigue<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"2\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:360,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\">An inability to function normally\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"2\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:360,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\">A sense that this can\u2019t be happening.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>All of these feelings and reactions to ending a relationship are normal, and for most, people they settle down in time.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If you feel unsafe or feel things are getting out of control, it\u2019s time to get help. This is especially important if you feel you\u2019re not looking after your children. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/support\/services\/individual-counselling\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Talking to someone<\/a> about how you are feeling may be the first step in finding a way through this difficult time.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><strong><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c3bc4f4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c3bc4f4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>Change and loss\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>One of the reasons separation or divorce evokes such strong feelings is because it brings about a huge range of changes and feelings of loss. Every separation involves making changes to many aspects of your life, so most people find this journey difficult even if both parties have agreed on the need to separate and are being cooperative.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Dreams and plans for the future can be interrupted by break ups. In turn, this can affect your sense of self, emotional and financial security, and your lifestyle. In addition, there are changes to familiar roles, routines and living arrangements. This impacts relationships with friends, relatives and children. Of course, those with children may also have to re-think their routines and the time they spend with them, and this can be very painful.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Compounding this, couples may also need to navigate the responses that their children, parents, extended family and friends have to their separation. As a result, it\u2019s important to recognise these difficulties and to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/self-care-habits-that-work\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">find ways of looking after yourself<\/a>. Ensuring you have a support system to help you manage the changes that will come about after a break-up is paramount.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The good news is, given time, most people develop ways to adapt to their \u201cnew normal\u201d and find fulfilment and happiness. In the meantime, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.familyrelationships.gov.au\/talk-someone\/advice-line\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Family Relationships Advice Line<\/a> is an excellent service that can help you decide which services you require when you are going through these sorts of changes.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a6c6a28 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a6c6a28\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>Conflict around changes\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>The most common areas of difference and conflict following separation are disagreements about the care of children and sharing of property.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Finding somewhere to live (often in a hurry), and setting up different residences is always going to be challenging. Of course, sorting out money and property issues can be complicated when bank accounts and mortgages have been shared.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In terms of looking after children, under current family law, there is a presumption of equal shared parental responsibility, except in cases involving violence or child abuse. This does not necessarily mean a 50\/50 time split \u2013 arrangements will depend on what is practicable and in the best interests of the child. There are a range of planning and support services offered by the government to help couples manage <a href=\"https:\/\/www.familyrelationships.gov.au\/documents\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">parenting children beyond separation<\/a> as well as information about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.servicesaustralia.gov.au\/separated-parents\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">child support and your financial entitlements,<\/a> and Relationships Australia offers a range of services that can help.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e9f128a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e9f128a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>Family Dispute Resolution<\/h2>\n<p>Couples can find more information about the legal implications of ending their relationships using the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fcfcoa.gov.au\/fl\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia\u2019s website.<\/a> However, as an alternative to resolving disputes via legal means, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/support\/services\/family-dispute-resolution-mediation\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Family Dispute Resolution services<\/a> are now compulsory in cases not involving violence or child abuse.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>These services are for couples in conflict over issues such as child contact and sharing property. The more amicably and calmly these problems can be resolved, the less is spent on expensive legal fees and time in court can be avoided. Relationship Australia NSWs <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/locations\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Family Relationship Centres<\/a> provide clients with a safe, supportive atmosphere and a method of talking to one another, to assist them to sort out issues causing conflict and come up with acceptable solutions.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Relationships Australia NSW also has staff who have been trained to involve children in this process. Understanding how children feel and have been affected by separation often helps parents think and arrive at solutions that are in the best interests of the children.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Group workshops such as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/group-workshops\/parenting-after-separation-focus-on-kids\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Parenting After Separation<\/a> can also help families find strategies to support their children through changes and difficulties when parents are no longer together.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-60e0500 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"60e0500\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>Violence and abuse\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>Ending a relationship can be a traumatic experience for all involved. It can also be a dangerous time when conflict may escalate.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The use of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/types-of-domestic-violence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">violence or abuse<\/a> can increase at the time of separation, as one partner takes out their anger and frustration on the other. Violence, threats or coercion are sometimes used to persuade a partner not to end a relationship. If you plan to separate from your partner and believe this may put you in danger, it is important to get help. Always call the police on 000 in an emergency.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Finally, if you or your former partner need help acknowledging and managing anger after a relationship ends, our course, <a href=\"\/group-workshops\/managing-anger\/\">Managing Anger,<\/a> can really help.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-33241ee e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"33241ee\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b125a1e elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"b125a1e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div 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href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/contact-us\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><span lang=\"EN-GB\" xml:lang=\"EN-GB\" data-contrast=\"none\">contact us<\/span><\/a><span lang=\"EN-GB\" xml:lang=\"EN-GB\" data-contrast=\"auto\"> for a confidential discussion.<\/span>\u00a0<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u0623\u062d\u062f \u0627\u0644\u0623\u0633\u0628\u0627\u0628 \u0627\u0644\u062a\u064a \u062a\u062c\u0639\u0644 \u0627\u0644\u0627\u0646\u0641\u0635\u0627\u0644 \u0623\u0648 \u0627\u0644\u0637\u0644\u0627\u0642 \u064a\u062b\u064a\u0631 \u0645\u062b\u0644 \u0647\u0630\u0647 \u0627\u0644\u0645\u0634\u0627\u0639\u0631 \u0627\u0644\u0642\u0648\u064a\u0629 \u0647\u0648 \u0623\u0646\u0647 \u064a\u062c\u0644\u0628 \u0645\u062c\u0645\u0648\u0639\u0629 \u0643\u0628\u064a\u0631\u0629 \u0645\u0646 \u0627\u0644\u062a\u063a\u064a\u064a\u0631\u0627\u062a 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