How to Renovate Your Relationship: A Manual for Men

By Relationships Australia

Many men tend to overlook the problems in their relationship until it’s too late. Just like your home, your relationship always needs work. You need to maintain and repair things when they get tired or run-down.

Renovate Your Relationship: A Manual for Men is your simple toolbox for renovating the important relationships in your life. Read the instructions before you get started on your relationship renovation project. Make sure you know how to make the relationship work. 

We shouldn’t wait until our most important relationship is in trouble to do the work. Renovate Your Relationship: A Manual for Men is a call to action for men who are looking to repair or conduct preventative maintenance on a relationship.

Discover practical advice 

Renovate Your Relationship: A Manual for Men offers straightforward, practical advice on topics such as:

  • Developing a project plan for your relationship renovation project. What do you want to build? What do you and your partner want from the relationship?
  • Creating relationship foundations of trust, respect and equality 
  • Improving communication
  • Resolving conflict and dealing with anger and frustration
  • Renovating your sex life and improving intimacy
  • Taking care of yourself and your loved ones
  • Assessing when it’s time to see a professional.

“I was feeling so bad, like we were in this pattern and couldn’t get out of it and I thought, well if I have a plumbing problem I get a plumber, we need an expert! We haven’t looked back since.”
– Tim, 28

We shouldn’t wait until our most important relationship is in trouble to do the work. Renovate Your Relationship: A Manual for Men is a call to action for men who are looking to repair or conduct preventative maintenance on a relationship.

13 essential tools for your relationship renovation  

Renovate Your Relationship: A Manual for Men outlines the 13 essential tools you’ll need in your kit to renovate your relationship, including: 

  • Tool 1: Working together. Making this a joint project with your partner.
  • Tool 2: Avoiding misunderstandings. Become a better communicator.
  • Tool 3: Sharpening your tools. Master active listening skills.
  • Tool 4: Resolving conflict. What to do when you can’t agree, particularly when children are involved.
  • Tool 5: When the roof blows off. Practical tips for dealing with anger and frustration.
  • Tool 6: Who has the power? Recognising abuse and violence in your relationship, and what to do about it.
  • Tool 7: Self-maintenance and looking after yourself. Find work/life balance, deal with depression and anxiety, and what to do if you find yourself abusing alcohol and other substances.
  • Tool 8: Renovating your sex life. Building intimacy with your partner and creating a more rewarding sex life for both of you.
  • Tool 9: Love. Expressing love, affection and warmth for your partner.
  • Tool 10: Valuing differences. How to accept each other’s differences and stop seeing them as a source of conflict.
  • Tool 11: Appreciation. Some inspiration for small and big ways to let your partner know you appreciate them. 
  • Tool 12: When trust breaks down. What to do when someone is feeling betrayed. How do you manage your feelings and make good decisions?
  • Tool 13: Children planning for the extension. How can you be the best dad for your kids, and support your partner throughout this major life change?

If you need further support

Renovate Your Relationship: A Manual for Men will link you with the right services for extra support. These include national and local services such as: 

  • Counselling 
  • Family dispute resolution 
  • General advice resources
  • Emergency contacts

Download the E-book

Renovate Your Relationship: A Manual for Men is your simple toolbox for renovating the important relationships in your life. Read the instructions before you get started on your relationship renovation project. Make sure you know how to make the relationship work.

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