{"id":8408,"date":"2022-12-09T14:44:46","date_gmt":"2022-12-09T03:44:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/?p=8408"},"modified":"2025-04-16T17:08:14","modified_gmt":"2025-04-16T07:08:14","slug":"is-your-relationship-happy-healthy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/it\/blog\/is-your-relationship-happy-healthy\/","title":{"rendered":"10 modi per sapere se la tua relazione \u00e8 sana e felice"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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The<\/span> programs we watch and the things we read are filled with images of \u201chappy\u201d and \u201csuccessful\u201d couples, but what constitutes success in a relationship? When any of us take time to reflect on our own, we\u2019ll probably find aspects we think are healthy, and others that are challenging or even distressing. While there is no perfect \u201crelationship test\u201d or guaranteed formula, there\u2019s nothing wrong with a little relationship health check.<\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Every couple is different and what works in one relationship may not work in another. Some couples swear by separate bedrooms (with sleepovers), while others would find this arrangement intolerable. When questioned about the \u201cfailure\u201d of his marriage to Linda Kozlowski, actor Paul Hogan said he thought \u201ca 23-year marriage was a success, not a failure.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n

Whatever your feelings about what makes a relationship a \u201csuccess\u201d, or what constitutes a toxic relationship<\/a>, everyone deserves to be safe (every day) and happy (on most days) with their partner.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

If there are aspects of your relationship you\u2019ve been throwing in the \u201ctoo hard basket\u201d, here are some ideas to consider that may help you navigate things into calmer waters.<\/p>\n

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1. Kindness, care and thoughtfulness\u00a0<\/h2>

Many little kindnesses and thoughtful gestures show our partner that we care. If we have no preference, why not stack the dishwasher the particular way they like it if it makes our partner happy? Perhaps it drives them crazy when you leave clothes on the bathroom floor, picking them up might make their day.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

These small, thoughtful gestures strengthen a relationship and bypass a process where things of little consequence can become a battlefield.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

Of course, there needs to be a balanced flow of giving and giving-in. Compromising on these little things shouldn\u2019t involve losing yourself.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

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2. Mutual respect and manners\u00a0<\/h2>

Do you treat your partner with respect and think the best of them at all times, even when you disagree? Especially when in the company of family and friends?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

\u201cPlease\u201d and \u201cthank you\u201d might be a given when you are around friends, colleagues or strangers but these expressions of appreciation are super important with your loved ones, too. Even when it\u2019s about little things, this appreciation demonstrates you don\u2019t take your partner for granted.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

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3. Accepting your partner for who they are\u00a0<\/h2>

Often the qualities we valued in a person when we first met can be those we later want to change. It works better if we can respect differences rather than try to change each other.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

This doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t ask your partner to consider changing some behaviours, like picking a wet towel off the floor, but if you want to change their core nature, good luck!<\/span><\/p>

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4. Criticism and blaming\u00a0<\/h2>

While some people are inherently selfish or lazy, it is also true that we sometimes call people \u201cselfish\u201d and \u201clazy\u201d when they are simply not doing what we want them to do.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

Beware of your judgements, criticism and blaming when it comes to your partner. Check in with yourself to see if the certainty you have in your own way of doing something needs to be shared with your partner.<\/span><\/p>

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5. The power of communication\u00a0<\/h2>

Healthy relationships require a commitment to <\/span>keep communication open and flowing<\/span>. Ask yourself these questions to test the way you share ideas with your partner:\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>