{"id":22779,"date":"2026-01-08T09:56:52","date_gmt":"2026-01-07T22:56:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/?p=22779"},"modified":"2026-01-08T10:52:43","modified_gmt":"2026-01-07T23:52:43","slug":"newlywed-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/sr_rs\/blog\/newlywed-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0421\u0430\u0432\u0435\u0442 \u0441\u0430\u0432\u0435\u0442\u043d\u0438\u043a\u0430 \u0437\u0430 \u043f\u0440\u0432\u0443 \u0433\u043e\u0434\u0438\u043d\u0443 \u0431\u0440\u0430\u043a\u0430"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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One of the most <\/span>common enquiries we rec<\/span>eive<\/span>\u00a0is from couples<\/span> who are looking for advice to <\/span>nurture <\/span>their first year of marriage.\u00a0<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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If you search online, you\u2019ll probably find an avalanche of articles with various opinions, some warning it can be a challenging year. In fact, they might go as far as to say that the first year can set the tone for your whole marriage<\/a> (no pressure, right?).\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

It can be incredibly overwhelming for couples to digest all of this, while balancing planning a wedding and everyday life.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

To sift through the noise, we sat down with Judy, one of our senior counsellors at Relationships Australia NSW, and sought her advice. Judy has 35+ years\u2019 experience in couples counselling<\/a> so you can feel rest assured she has met all types of couples and the expected (and unexpected) challenges they face.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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#1: Be kind and manage your expectations<\/h2>

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Before we dive any deeper, we recognise and see many couples today are changing norms and the \u201ctraditional\u201d order of doing things. This might mean they may live together<\/a> for an extended period or have children before marriage \u2013 or, choose not to get married at all. So, why does advice specific for your first year of marriage still matter?<\/p>

Whether you expect it or not, being married can and does change what you expect of your partner. Ideas you didn\u2019t know you had about the roles of a \u2018husband\u2019 or a \u2018wife\u2019 might surface and create tension.<\/p>

Think: who takes out the rubbish, manages the social diary, is \u2018in-charge\u2019 or across the finances, or plans meals, grocery shops<\/a> and cooks.<\/p>

Often you won\u2019t realise these assumptions until you bump into one and find that you don\u2019t think the same way about it. When this happens, be willing to think about where your ideas come from, so you can openly discuss them with your partner, and find a way forward together.<\/p>

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#2: Have the tough conversations<\/h2>

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If you haven\u2019t already tackled the \u2018big\u2019 conversations before you get married, they should be on the priority list for the first year. Some of the main topics to think about:\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>