{"id":23639,"date":"2026-01-01T15:43:14","date_gmt":"2026-01-01T04:43:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/?p=23639"},"modified":"2026-01-08T11:10:00","modified_gmt":"2026-01-08T00:10:00","slug":"attachment-styles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/sr_rs\/blog\/attachment-styles\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0428\u0442\u0430 \u0441\u0443 \u0441\u0442\u0438\u043b\u043e\u0432\u0438 \u043f\u0440\u0438\u0432\u0440\u0436\u0435\u043d\u043e\u0441\u0442\u0438 \u0438 \u043a\u0430\u043a\u043e \u043e\u043d\u0438 \u043c\u043e\u0433\u0443 \u0443\u0442\u0438\u0446\u0430\u0442\u0438 \u043d\u0430 \u0432\u0430\u0448\u0435 \u043e\u0434\u043d\u043e\u0441\u0435?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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When <\/span>we\u2019re<\/span> growing up, our parents and caregivers often help us feel safe and secure. As the first people caring for us, we can form strong emotional bonds with them and seek their comfort when we feel threatened and distressed.<\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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But<\/span> not everyone has the same childhood experience<\/a> or finds support in their early relationships. These early attachments <\/span>can <\/span>significantly <\/span>impact<\/span> how we think about ourselves, cope with stressful events, and develop relationships.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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What is attachment theory \u2013 and where does it come from?<\/h2>

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Put simply, attachment theory is the concept that humans need relational bonds, and that our early relationships impact our connections with others and our perception of ourselves<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

Psychologist John Bowlby, with further research from psychologist Mary Ainsworth, first proposed the idea in the 1950s. He observed that a child\u2019s relationship with their parents <\/span>sh<\/span><\/a>aped a large portion<\/a> of their development,<\/span> and that early separation from their caregivers often had traumatising results. According to his work, children separated from caregivers at a young age experienced behavioural and mental health issues later in life.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

Bowlby also described how <\/span>attachment can be vital to survival<\/span><\/a>, which is why infants might cry or scream to get their caregiver\u2019s attention. Receiving comfort can help children respond to stressful situations and regulate their emotions. However, if they don’t get the attention they need, it can eventually lead to detachment.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

Importantly, attachment theory isn\u2019t without criticism and doesn\u2019t take into account other factors that can influence a person\u2019s attachment style, like race, gender, family dynamic, location, religion and disability.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

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