{"id":24965,"date":"2024-11-20T15:06:44","date_gmt":"2024-11-20T04:06:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/?p=24965"},"modified":"2025-04-11T16:58:16","modified_gmt":"2025-04-11T06:58:16","slug":"supporting-teen-mental-health","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/blog\/supporting-teen-mental-health\/","title":{"rendered":"'C\u00e1i ch\u1ebft c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb g\u00e1i t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn t\u00f4i tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n'"},"content":{"rendered":"
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T\u00e1c gi\u1ea3: V\u00f4 danh<\/em><\/p>

C\u1ea3nh b\u00e1o v\u1ec1 n\u1ed9i dung: <\/span>b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0y <\/span>ch\u1ee9a<\/span> tham kh\u1ea3o v\u1ec1 t\u1ef1 t\u1eed<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/p>

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Ch\u1ecb g\u00e1i xinh \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u00e1c s\u0129 tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi, \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 t\u1eed. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i k\u1ec3 t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi ch\u1ecb \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9 cho t\u00f4i c\u00e1ch tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha m\u1eb9 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n.<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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B\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ea5y, ch\u1ecb g\u00e1i t\u00f4i b\u1ecb tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i lu\u00f4n bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn gi\u1eefa bi\u1ebft<\/em> m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft<\/em> N\u00f3.<\/p>

M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 t\u00f4i th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 mong mu\u1ed1n b\u00e0 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u1edf b\u00ean ch\u00fang t\u00f4i, theo m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 d\u1ea1y cho t\u00f4i m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc m\u00e0 t\u00f4i th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1, th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc v\u1edbi t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd t\u00f4i hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n cho con trai m\u00ecnh - v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 li\u00ean quan r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 s\u1ef1 k\u1ef3 th\u1ecb xung quanh s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n<\/a>.<\/p>

Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua ch\u1ee9ng tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb t\u00f4i v\u00ec ch\u1ecb \u1ea5y r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng r\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t. Ch\u1ecb \u1ea5y n\u00f3i r\u00f5 r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ecb \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u2013 nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c ra, ch\u1ecb \u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ai hi\u1ec3u.<\/p>

Theo m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u00e1ch th\u00ec c\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00fang.<\/p>

M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i n\u0103m tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ch\u1ecb g\u00e1i t\u00f4i m\u1ea5t, con trai t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb b\u1eaft n\u1ea1t \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng trung h\u1ecdc v\u00ec k\u1ef3 l\u1ea1<\/a>. Th\u1eadt t\u00e0n nh\u1eabn, \u0111\u1ed9c \u00e1c, th\u00e2m \u0111\u1ed9c. M\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y n\u1ecd, anh \u1ea5y v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c nh\u1ea3y t\u1eeb ban c\u00f4ng \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>

L\u00e0m sao c\u1eadu con trai phi th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn? C\u1eadu b\u00e9 r\u1ea5t th\u00f4ng minh; l\u00e0m sao c\u1eadu b\u00e9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c t\u1ef1 t\u1eed?<\/p>

May m\u1eafn thay, t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng con trai t\u00f4i c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c. B\u00e1c s\u0129 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nhanh ch\u00f3ng v\u00e0 con trai t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n<\/a> v\u00ec \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u1ef1 t\u1eed c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y. V\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1.<\/p>

B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia v\u00e0 g\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ebfn d\u00e2y c\u1ee9u sinh<\/a>, T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecfi xem con trai t\u00f4i c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u1ef1 t\u1eed kh\u00f4ng v\u00e0 b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a con l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. Thay v\u00ec khi\u1ebfn con l\u00f9i b\u01b0\u1edbc ho\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5, r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 con s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u1eb9 nh\u00f5m khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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T\u1eeb khi ch\u1ecb g\u00e1i t\u00f4i qua \u0111\u1eddi, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 hi\u1ec3u s\u00e2u h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap con trai m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n, theo nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. T\u00f4i c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i b\u1ec1n ch\u1eb7t trong vi\u1ec7c h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a con.<\/p>

\u0110\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, t\u00f4i c\u1ea7n ki\u1ec3m tra anh \u1ea5y th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u01a1n, ngay c\u1ea3 khi m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 c\u00f3 v\u1ebb "\u1ed5n". Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn c\u1edfi m\u1edf v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch \u1ee9ng ph\u00f3 kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li\u00ean h\u1ec7. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f4ng ng\u1eebng v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y trong nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc \u0111en t\u1ed1i nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>

M\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n m\u00e0 t\u00f4i ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd ngh\u0129 m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd c\u00f3 v\u1edbi t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch l\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c m\u1ed5 x\u1ebb v\u1ee5 t\u1ef1 t\u1eed c\u1ee7a ch\u1ecb g\u00e1i t\u00f4i. Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ebft l\u1ea7n n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1ea7n kh\u00e1c. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c g\u00f3c \u0111\u1ed9, c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1, c\u1ea3 y t\u1ebf v\u00e0 m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng, \u0111\u00e3 g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ecb g\u00e1i t\u00f4i t\u1ef1 t\u1eed.<\/p>

Nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i, t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u che gi\u1ea5u c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 \u1ea5y, nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 nh\u01b0 tr\u00e1nh c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c g\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i, r\u00fat lui kh\u1ecfi c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 \u1ea5y v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi \u0111\u1ed9t ng\u1ed9t, k\u1ef3 l\u1ea1. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u kh\u00e1c c\u1ea7n l\u01b0u \u00fd v\u00e0 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fa \u00fd n\u1ebfu con trai t\u00f4i c\u0169ng l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. T\u00f4i c\u1ea3nh gi\u00e1c h\u01a1n v\u1edbi ch\u00fang - t\u00f4i c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 c\u1ea3nh gi\u00e1c.<\/p>

T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh v\u1edbi con r\u1eb1ng d\u00f9 c\u00f3 chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra, t\u00f4i v\u1eabn \u1ee7ng h\u1ed9 con. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i v\u00e0 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i s\u1ebd c\u00f9ng nhau v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec tr\u1ebb em c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft t\u1eeb cha m\u1eb9 ch\u00fang, v\u00e0 con trai t\u00f4i lu\u00f4n bi\u1ebft - nh\u01b0ng gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a con.<\/p>

T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean, t\u00f4i v\u1eabn ch\u01b0a ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 chuy\u00ean gia. T\u00f4i ch\u1ec9 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y: vi\u1ec7c m\u1ea5t \u0111i ch\u1ecb g\u00e1i \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn t\u00f4i tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n cho con trai m\u00ecnh.<\/p>

T\u00f4i c\u0169ng bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u2013 t\u00f4i th\u1eadt may m\u1eafn khi c\u00f3 b\u00e0 trong su\u1ed1t th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, v\u00e0 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n bi\u1ebft \u01a1n c\u00e1ch b\u00e0 \u201cn\u00f3i\u201d v\u1edbi t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m m\u1eb9, ngay c\u1ea3 sau khi b\u00e0 qua \u0111\u1eddi.<\/p>

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T\u1ea1i Relationships Australia NSW, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i tin r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n ch\u1eb7t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ngu\u1ed3n s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh, s\u1ef1 ph\u1ee5c h\u1ed3i v\u00e0 ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng cung c\u1ea5p h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c, c\u00e1c d\u1ecbch v\u1ee5 t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi c\u00e1c d\u1ecbch v\u1ee5 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua n\u1ed7i \u0111au v\u00e0 t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua nh\u1eefng th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t.<\/strong><\/p>

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n ho\u1eb7c ng\u01b0\u1eddi quen c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 kh\u1ea9n c\u1ea5p ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c, vui l\u00f2ng li\u00ean h\u1ec7:<\/strong><\/p>