{"id":31766,"date":"2026-09-30T14:00:24","date_gmt":"2026-09-30T04:00:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/?p=31766"},"modified":"2026-09-30T14:53:45","modified_gmt":"2026-09-30T04:53:45","slug":"why-we-wait-to-get-relationship-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/blog\/why-we-wait-to-get-relationship-help\/","title":{"rendered":"T\u1ea1i sao ch\u00fang ta ch\u1ec9 ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ebfn khi c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 g\u1eb7p tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c m\u1edbi ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Khi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u1ed5n trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p c\u00f3 l\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean m\u00e0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 v\u00e0i tu\u1ea7n c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, t\u1ef1 nh\u1ee7 r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n s\u1ebd \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u1ea1i khi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c b\u1edbt b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n h\u01a1n ho\u1eb7c con c\u00e1i ng\u1ee7 ngon h\u01a1n, ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ec1u tr\u1ea3i qua nh\u1eefng giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n.<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n h\u1ee3p l\u00fd. C\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng su\u00f4n s\u1ebb, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua nh\u1eefng giai \u0111o\u1ea1n c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng cho r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 sai tr\u00e1i nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 an to\u00e0n h\u01a1n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1edd \u01a1.<\/p>

Nh\u01b0ng ranh gi\u1edbi gi\u1eefa vi\u1ec7c tin t\u01b0\u1edfng r\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd c\u00f9ng nhau v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c ph\u1edbt l\u1edd m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan t\u00e2m l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t mong manh.<\/p>

M\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t m\u1edbi do Relationships Australia NSW \u1ee7y th\u00e1c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n.<\/a> Kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t cho th\u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 91% ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00dac t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ebfn khi m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n xa h\u01a1n: 17% t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 khi xung \u0111\u1ed9t tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean, 24% khi nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, v\u00e0 13% ch\u1ec9 khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 s\u1eafp tan v\u1ee1. G\u1ea7n 3\/10 ng\u01b0\u1eddi (29%) cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i m\u1ecdi giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/h2>

Elisabeth Shaw, Gi\u00e1m \u0111\u1ed1c \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a Relationships Australia NSW v\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng, cho bi\u1ebft vi\u1ec7c h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 khi g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng lo ng\u1ea1i.<\/p>

\u201c\u0110i\u1ec3m m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 lo l\u1eafng khi g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n ban \u0111\u1ea7u, v\u00e0 lu\u00f4n gi\u1eef b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh v\u00e0 l\u1ea1c quan,\u201d Elisabeth n\u00f3i. \u201cNh\u1eefng giai \u0111o\u1ea1n l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c qu\u00e1 s\u1ee9c, c\u00f3 em b\u00e9 m\u1edbi sinh ho\u1eb7c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c cha m\u1eb9 gi\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 th\u1eed th\u00e1ch ngay c\u1ea3 trong nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n ch\u1eb7t v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea7y y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 tin n\u00f3i v\u1edbi nhau r\u1eb1ng, \u2018Kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ho\u1ea3ng s\u1ee3; ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c\u2019 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh.\u201d<\/p>

Kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n n\u1eb1m \u1edf ch\u1ed7 nh\u1eefng \u00e1p l\u1ef1c r\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch cho s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, trong khi th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5t n\u00f3 \u0111ang n\u00f3i l\u00ean \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c. M\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u00e3 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i nhi\u1ec1u th\u00e1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, con c\u00e1i ho\u1eb7c m\u1ed9t giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00ec vi\u1ec7c th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f2n nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1eb1ng sau \u0111\u00f3 d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n h\u01a1n.<\/p>

Ngo\u00e0i ra, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n b\u1ecb x\u1ebfp xu\u1ed1ng cu\u1ed1i danh s\u00e1ch \u01b0u ti\u00ean. C\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, con c\u00e1i, tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m ch\u0103m s\u00f3c v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta, v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 s\u1ebd ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng v\u00e0 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn s\u1ef1 sao nh\u00e3ng trong khi m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c kh\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Khi n\u00e0o th\u00ec m\u1ed9t giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n tr\u1edf n\u00ean nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n?<\/h2>

Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1c th\u1eddi gian c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t khi n\u00e0o m\u1ed9t giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan t\u00e2m nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n. Elisabeth g\u1ee3i \u00fd n\u00ean ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn tr\u1ef1c gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n li\u00ean t\u1ee5c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch th\u1ecfa \u0111\u00e1ng b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi, b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n hay \u00e1p l\u1ef1c.<\/p>

C\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n tr\u1ea3i qua m\u1ed9t giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n c\u00f9ng nhau<\/em> \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3. C\u1ea3 hai b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111ang v\u1eadt l\u1ed9n v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 em b\u00e9 m\u1edbi sinh, lo l\u1eafng v\u1ec1 ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c ho\u1eb7c tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m ch\u0103m s\u00f3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n, nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra v\u00e0 tr\u1ea5n an nhau r\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3 hai \u0111ang c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed9i.<\/p>

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra, nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i l\u1ea1i li\u00ean t\u1ee5c b\u1ecb n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh, ho\u1eb7c b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, th\u00ec c\u00f3 l\u1ebd b\u1ea1n n\u00ean ch\u00fa \u00fd h\u01a1n.<\/p>

Elisabeth cho bi\u1ebft, \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ebfn r\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean.<\/p>

\u201cM\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i n\u00f3i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i sau nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed5i t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0, \u2018\u01af\u1edbc g\u00ec ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1edbm h\u01a1n\u2019\u201d, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y n\u00f3i. \u201cVi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00fap h\u00f2a gi\u1ea3i, \u0111\u01b0a ra g\u00f3c nh\u00ecn kh\u00e1c, cung c\u1ea5p c\u00e1c chi\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng m\u1edbi, v\u00e0 gi\u00fap xua tan nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 nh\u1eb9 nh\u00f5m r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn.\u201d<\/p>

\u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ea7n l\u01b0u \u00fd l\u00e0, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng kh\u00e1c. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n s\u1ee3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00ec h\u00e0nh vi ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t, \u0111e d\u1ecda, l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng ho\u1eb7c b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c, m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean l\u00e0 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n giao ti\u1ebfp ho\u1eb7c duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch hy sinh s\u1ef1 an to\u00e0n c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh b\u1ea1n. H\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 chuy\u00ean bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c trong quan h\u1ec7 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng<\/a> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec l\u00e0 an to\u00e0n nh\u1ea5t cho m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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C\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu.<\/h2>

Khi nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft, v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ban \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1edbn h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u.<\/p>

Nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u1ec1 ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c, vi\u1ec7c nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y con c\u00e1i, chuy\u1ec7n ch\u0103n g\u1ed1i hay tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1ea7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p v\u00e0 kh\u00f3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nhau. C\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u bi\u1ebft tr\u01b0\u1edbc cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn s\u1ebd di\u1ec5n ra nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o, r\u1ed3i l\u1ea1i quay v\u1ec1 l\u1eadp tr\u01b0\u1eddng quen thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u1ea5y d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>

C\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1c kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh kh\u00e1c c\u1ee7a s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n. Trong cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t c\u1ee7a Relationships Australia NSW, 261 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00dac cho bi\u1ebft c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00e3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng kh\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u ho\u1eb7c r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng t\u1ed5ng th\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd trong n\u0103m tr\u01b0\u1edbc. G\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n t\u01b0 cho bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 v\u1ec1 gi\u1ea5c ng\u1ee7 (231 ng\u01b0\u1eddi) v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng (231 ng\u01b0\u1eddi), trong khi 211 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00e1o c\u00e1o b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng.<\/p>

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 m\u1ecdi b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng ch\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec1u nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Nh\u01b0ng vi\u1ec7c ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3i qua h\u00e0ng th\u00e1ng ho\u1eb7c h\u00e0ng n\u0103m tranh c\u00e3i v\u1ec1 c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n gi\u1ed1ng nhau ho\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng xa c\u00e1ch c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea1i gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 91% ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00dac cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, nh\u01b0ng nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn c\u00e1c h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 s\u1edbm h\u01a1n. N\u1ebfu d\u1ec5 ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn v\u00e0 gi\u00e1 c\u1ea3 ph\u1ea3i ch\u0103ng, 391% cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd s\u1ebd c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n d\u1ef1 ph\u00f2ng v\u00e0 341% s\u1ebd ki\u1ec3m tra s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>

Elisabeth c\u00f3 c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 l\u1ebd s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb7t l\u1ecbch ki\u1ec3m tra s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 h\u00e0ng n\u0103m khi m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u \u1ed5n. C\u01a1 h\u1ed9i l\u1edbn h\u01a1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i quan ni\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta v\u1ec1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. v\u00ec<\/em>.<\/p>

\u201cNhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn ho\u1eb7c hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n vi\u00ean v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c nhau trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y l\u1ee3i \u00edch c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, giai \u0111o\u1ea1n v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng m\u1edbi,\u201d b\u00e0 n\u00f3i. \u201cCh\u00fang ta c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng c\u00e1ch suy ngh\u0129 \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0o c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, thay v\u00ec cho r\u1eb1ng, 'Ch\u1ec9 khi g\u1eb7p r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i l\u1edbn m\u1edbi c\u1ea7n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1'.\u2018<\/p>

S\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cung c\u1ea5p m\u1ed9t kh\u00f4ng gian \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra, c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00f3c nh\u00ecn kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i quen tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i.<\/p>

Nh\u01b0ng vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng x\u1ea3y ra kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n t\u00e2m l\u00fd ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 bao g\u1ed3m vi\u1ec7c d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 khi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh chi\u1ebfm ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u1ecfi han khi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u1ed5n, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y khi c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee9 t\u00e1i di\u1ec5n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft tri\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ec3.<\/p>

\u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c theo d\u00f5i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 hay coi m\u1ed7i tu\u1ea7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ea3nh b\u00e1o. \u0110i\u1ec1u th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u00f4i khi kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0o s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f9ng nhau v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua.<\/p>

Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng lo ng\u1ea1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 c\u1ee9 l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i, c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n h\u01a1n ho\u1eb7c b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng xa c\u00e1ch, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ee3i \u0111\u1ebfn khi x\u1ea3y ra kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng m\u1edbi b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u xem x\u00e9t nghi\u00eam t\u00fac m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Vi\u1ec7c h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u khi kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng x\u1ea3y ra. Th\u00f4ng qua... Chi\u1ebfn d\u1ecbch "K\u1ebft n\u1ed1i l\u00e0 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7"<\/a>, T\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c Relationships Australia NSW \u0111ang t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng, duy tr\u00ec v\u00e0 c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 quan tr\u1ecdng trong su\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. T\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u th\u00eam.<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 91% ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. V\u1eady t\u1ea1i sao ch\u00fang ta l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i? Ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u00f9ng t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u khi n\u00e0o m\u1ed9t giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan t\u00e2m nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, nh\u1eefng r\u00e0o c\u1ea3n khi t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 v\u00e0 t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ebfn khi kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u1edbi t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":31772,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_relevanssi_hide_post":"","_relevanssi_hide_content":"","_relevanssi_pin_for_all":"","_relevanssi_pin_keywords":"","_relevanssi_unpin_keywords":"","_relevanssi_related_keywords":"","_relevanssi_related_include_ids":"","_relevanssi_related_exclude_ids":"","_relevanssi_related_no_append":"","_relevanssi_related_not_related":"","_relevanssi_related_posts":"","_relevanssi_noindex_reason":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31766","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-article","relationship-couples","relationship-individuals","focus-communication","focus-conflict","focus-mental-health"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31766","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31766"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31766\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":32412,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31766\/revisions\/32412"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31772"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31766"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31766"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31766"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}