{"id":31780,"date":"2026-09-30T14:00:36","date_gmt":"2026-09-30T04:00:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/?p=31780"},"modified":"2026-09-30T14:53:23","modified_gmt":"2026-09-30T04:53:23","slug":"how-to-have-difficult-conversations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/blog\/how-to-have-difficult-conversations\/","title":{"rendered":"T\u1ea1i sao ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd d\u00e0nh h\u00e0ng gi\u1edd suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, r\u1ed3i cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn th\u00ec d\u1ec5 h\u01a1n? Hay \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng r\u1eddi kh\u1ecfi m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn m\u00e0 h\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc v\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i ra \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ngh\u0129, thay v\u00ec tr\u1edf n\u00ean ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7, im l\u1eb7ng ho\u1eb7c n\u00f3i ra \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 sau n\u00e0y m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn?<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0m su\u1ed1t c\u1ea3 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi, c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u1ea1i c\u1ea7n r\u1ea5t \u00edt s\u1ef1 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb. Ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ecdc, vi\u1ebft, qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c v\u00e0 l\u00e1i xe. Nh\u01b0ng nhi\u1ec1u k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft nh\u1ea5t \u2013 n\u00f3i l\u00ean nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, l\u1eafng nghe khi b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng, \u0111\u1eb7t ra ranh gi\u1edbi, xin l\u1ed7i v\u00e0 t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch h\u00f2a gi\u1ea3i sau xung \u0111\u1ed9t \u2013 l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>

M\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t m\u1edbi do Relationships Australia NSW \u1ee7y th\u00e1c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n.<\/a> \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y cho th\u1ea5y nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3. Ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n ba ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00dac cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y c\u00e1ch x\u1eed l\u00fd nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 khi l\u1edbn l\u00ean, trong khi 401% cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y. C\u0169ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c th\u1ebf h\u1ec7, v\u1edbi 531% ng\u01b0\u1eddi thu\u1ed9c th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 X cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y, so v\u1edbi 321% ng\u01b0\u1eddi thu\u1ed9c th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 Z.<\/p>

V\u1eady n\u00ean, n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch x\u1eed l\u00fd nh\u1eefng kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n h\u01a1n trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, th\u00ec sao? l\u00e0m<\/em> Ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ee9?<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1eeb r\u1ea5t l\u00e2u r\u1ed3i.<\/h2>

H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 l\u1ebd \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, d\u00f9 \u0111\u00f4i khi n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc. R\u1ea5t l\u00e2u tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 quan s\u00e1t c\u00e1ch nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi nhau: chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng, li\u1ec7u c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3i ra hay che gi\u1ea5u, c\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra sau khi ai \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>

Dee Salmin, ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u1eabn ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0i triple j. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/em>, C\u00f4 \u1ea5y m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc m\u1ed9t \u201cb\u1ea3n k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch\u201d cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Khi ch\u00fang t\u00f4i tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y cho podcast m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, Ch\u00fang ta \u1ed5n ch\u1ee9?<\/em>, C\u00f4 \u1ea5y suy ng\u1eabm r\u1eb1ng "ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7" \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb cha m\u1eb9, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u0103m s\u00f3c v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>

N\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m, h\u00e0n g\u1eafn t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i l\u1ea1i sau \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng xung \u0111\u1ed9t l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. N\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn la h\u00e9t, im l\u1eb7ng ho\u1eb7c thu m\u00ecnh, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e3 ti\u1ebfp thu nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc r\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c.<\/p>

Nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n ra theo nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra ngay khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. Nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc, Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Raquel Peel, cho bi\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c ph\u00e1 ho\u1ea1i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u00ednh nh\u1eefng khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i n\u00e0y.<\/p>

Hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho cha m\u1eb9 hay cho r\u1eb1ng tu\u1ed5i th\u01a1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta m\u00e3i m\u00e3i. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn \u0111\u00e3 nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean kinh nghi\u1ec7m v\u00e0 khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang h\u1ecd. Nh\u01b0ng vi\u1ec7c t\u00f2 m\u00f2 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eadn ra nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc n\u00e0o h\u1eefu \u00edch hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc n\u00e0o ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn theo c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng?<\/h2>

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c ch\u00ednh quy c\u00f3 l\u1ebd c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng l\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3ng tr\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y. Gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 tr\u00ean kh\u1eafp n\u01b0\u1edbc \u00dac, v\u1edbi... \u0110\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 to\u00e0n qu\u1ed1c do \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Monash d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ea7u<\/a> Ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 trong c\u00e1ch hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 tri\u1ec3n khai gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc, l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c, ti\u1ec3u bang v\u00e0 v\u00f9ng l\u00e3nh th\u1ed5.<\/p>

May m\u1eafn thay, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111ang b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u thay \u0111\u1ed5i. Ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh Gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c \u00dac hi\u1ec7n nay bao g\u1ed3m vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3ng d\u1ea1y r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng thu\u1eadn t\u1eeb b\u1eadc M\u1ea7m non \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1edbp 10, v\u00e0 Ch\u00ednh ph\u1ee7 \u00dac \u0111\u00e3 ban h\u00e0nh t\u00e0i li\u1ec7u \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a \u00dac v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y. Khung Gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c Quan h\u1ec7 T\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng Qu\u1ed1c gia<\/a> V\u00e0o th\u00e1ng 3 n\u0103m 2026. T\u1ea1i NSW, h\u1ecdc sinh t\u1eeb m\u1eabu gi\u00e1o \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1edbp 10 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecdc ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i v\u1ec1 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 an to\u00e0n th\u00f4ng qua ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh gi\u1ea3ng d\u1ea1y b\u1eaft bu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 PDHPE.<\/a>.<\/p>

C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 coi tr\u1ecdng nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y h\u01a1n. Gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng thu\u1eadn kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 gi\u00fap gi\u1edbi tr\u1ebb giao ti\u1ebfp t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n. (Australia's...) K\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch qu\u1ed1c gia ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u00e0 tr\u1ebb em giai \u0111o\u1ea1n 2022-2032<\/a> B\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0y x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n quan tr\u1ecdng trong vi\u1ec7c ng\u0103n ng\u1eeba b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c gi\u1edbi b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng, b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng, s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng thu\u1eadn v\u00e0 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi nh\u1eefng khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu g\u00e2y h\u1ea1i h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh.<\/p>

Tuy nhi\u00ean, c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 g\u00e1nh v\u00e1c tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh. Tr\u1ebb em v\u1eabn \u0111ang h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra \u1edf m\u1ecdi n\u01a1i kh\u00e1c trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Quan ni\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u0169ng b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb v\u0103n h\u00f3a.<\/h2>

Gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a b\u1ee9c tranh to\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh. B\u1ea1n b\u00e8, s\u00e1ch v\u1edf, phim \u1ea3nh, truy\u1ec1n h\u00ecnh, k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng v\u1ec1 gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh v\u00e0, ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u, m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u00ecnh c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00ean nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o.<\/p>

Dee nh\u1edb l\u1ea1i th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nghe nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n cho r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 c\u00e1i k\u1ebft h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n. Sau n\u00e0y, khi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n duy nh\u1ea5t trong nh\u00f3m, c\u00f4 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u1ed5n v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 cho r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau m\u1edbi ch\u1ee9ng minh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng. "T\u00f4i m\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i \u0111\u1ec3 d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n qu\u00ean \u0111i suy ngh\u0129 \u0111\u00f3," c\u00f4 chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi ch\u00fang t\u00f4i.<\/p>

Kh\u00e1i ni\u1ec7m "qu\u00ean \u0111i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc" r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng. \u0110\u00f4i khi, \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta mang theo v\u00e0o tu\u1ed5i tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu h\u1ee5t gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 n\u1ec1n v\u0103n h\u00f3a xung quanh; th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c n\u1eb1m \u1edf ch\u1ed7 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1eefu \u00edch.<\/p>

V\u00ed d\u1ee5, \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u00e1c b\u00e9 trai v\u00e0 thanh ni\u00ean, nh\u1eefng th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p v\u1ec1 nam t\u00ednh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c li\u1ec7u s\u1ef1 d\u1ec5 t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn hay kh\u00f4ng. Ben Vasiliou, Gi\u00e1m \u0111\u1ed1c \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c t\u1eeb thi\u1ec7n ph\u00f2ng ng\u1eeba s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n The Man Cave, cho bi\u1ebft trong m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t v\u1edbi v\u00e0i ngh\u00ecn b\u00e9 trai, ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 311% ban \u0111\u1ea7u n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Sau khi tham gia m\u1ed9t bu\u1ed5i h\u1ed9i th\u1ea3o c\u1ee7a Man Cave \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thi\u1ebft k\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, 751% cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i h\u01a1n khi l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady.<\/p>

\u0110i\u1ec1u Ben nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y trong nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed5i h\u1ed9i th\u1ea3o \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thi\u1ebfu quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i. \u201cH\u1ecd s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng chia s\u1ebb, h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n, h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i.\u201d T\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 s\u1eb5n; \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ch\u00e0ng trai c\u1ea7n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i, m\u1ed9t con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Bi\u1ebft ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng.<\/h2>

\u1ede m\u1ed9t kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, hi\u1ec7n nay ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bao quanh b\u1edfi nhi\u1ec1u th\u00f4ng tin v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 h\u01a1n bao gi\u1edd h\u1ebft. Dee \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i n\u00e0y trong su\u1ed1t nh\u1eefng n\u0103m l\u00e0m MC c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/em>. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb tu\u1ed5i c\u1edfi m\u1edf h\u01a1n v\u1edbi li\u1ec7u ph\u00e1p t\u00e2m l\u00fd, bi\u1ebft nhi\u1ec1u ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>

Vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef \u0111\u1ec3 di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng h\u1eefu \u00edch. Nh\u01b0ng bi\u1ebft ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u1eadn d\u1ee5ng n\u00f3 v\u00e0o th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00e0 hai chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c nhau, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 khi ch\u00fang ta b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng, t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn, x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5 ho\u1eb7c s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i.<\/p>

V\u00ed d\u1ee5, h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng l\u1eafng nghe r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng trong m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn. Nh\u01b0ng Th\u1ef1c ra<\/em> Vi\u1ec7c l\u1eafng nghe khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1eeba n\u00f3i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh cho l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng s\u1ebd kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n h\u01a1n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u.<\/p>

Nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i Hugh Mackay m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 vi\u1ec7c l\u1eafng nghe l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u201c\u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi s\u1ef1 ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn\u201d. \u00d4ng n\u00f3i th\u00eam r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng can \u0111\u1ea3m, b\u1edfi v\u00ec th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u1eafng nghe ai \u0111\u00f3 \u2013 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111ang tr\u1ea3i qua giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u2013 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n nghe.<\/p>

\u201cN\u1ebfu t\u00f4i nghe b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u1ec1 t\u00f4i v\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u1eb7p tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c, t\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 v\u00ec n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf,\u201d Hugh n\u00f3i. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 thi\u1ebfu ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn, ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng l\u1eafng nghe m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u0103m ch\u00fa hay th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m nh\u01b0 l\u1ebd ra ph\u1ea3i v\u1eady. \u201cV\u00e0 gi\u1edd t\u00f4i s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i.\u201d<\/p>

Hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean<\/em> K\u1ef9 n\u0103ng l\u1eafng nghe t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n. \u0110i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n r\u00e8n luy\u1ec7n th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean l\u00e0 h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i khi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh nghe \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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T\u1ea1i sao nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n l\u1ea1i tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1eady?<\/h2>

Th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111ang b\u1ecb \u0111e d\u1ecda khi ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 lo l\u1eafng h\u1ecd s\u1ebd t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn, xa l\u00e1nh m\u00ecnh, hi\u1ec3u sai \u00fd m\u00ecnh ho\u1eb7c nh\u00ecn m\u00ecnh kh\u00e1c \u0111i. \u0110\u00f4i khi im l\u1eb7ng c\u00f3 v\u1ebb \u00edt r\u1ee7i ro h\u01a1n l\u00e0 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u xem \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra n\u1ebfu m\u00ecnh n\u00f3i ra.<\/p>

Nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng n\u00e0y. N\u1ebfu vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m t\u1eebng g\u00e2y ra xung \u0111\u1ed9t gay g\u1eaft ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3 trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta l\u1edbn l\u00ean, th\u00ec xung \u0111\u1ed9t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t lo l\u1eafng. N\u1ebfu c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 im l\u1eb7ng, th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n c\u1edfi m\u1edf v\u1ec1 n\u1ed7i \u0111au c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ecb ph\u01a1i b\u00e0y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch b\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>

M\u1ee5c ti\u00eau kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u00e0 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n n\u1eefa. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n g\u00e2y kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a s\u00e2u s\u1eafc v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta. \u0110i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng \u0111\u1ee7 s\u1ef1 kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1eafng nghe, truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch chu \u0111\u00e1o, thay v\u00ec ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng, r\u00fat lui ho\u1eb7c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n.<\/p>

V\u00e0 b\u1edfi v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ai trong ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o m\u1ecdi l\u00fac, n\u00ean vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng. Kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng quay l\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n, th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn ph\u1ea7n l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh trong nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra, xin l\u1ed7i khi c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft v\u00e0 th\u1eed l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 quan tr\u1ecdng kh\u00f4ng k\u00e9m vi\u1ec7c bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh ch\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y.<\/h2>

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i cung c\u1ea5p m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u1ec1 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u1ea1i quan tr\u1ecdng. Trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00dac cho bi\u1ebft c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u00edch c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n, 391 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y c\u00e1ch x\u1eed l\u00fd c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n khi l\u1edbn l\u00ean, so v\u1edbi 221 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n.<\/p>

Nh\u1eefng ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng cho ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. g\u00e2y ra<\/em> Gi\u00fap m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n, b\u1edfi v\u00ec c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng b\u1edfi nhi\u1ec1u y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c nhau. Tuy nhi\u00ean, ch\u00fang c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m r\u1ed9ng h\u01a1n: c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta giao ti\u1ebfp, gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 h\u00e0n g\u1eafn t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi tr\u1ecdng.<\/p>

H\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh chuy\u00ean gia v\u1ec1 ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u hay kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd m\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh n\u1eefa. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng im l\u1eb7ng khi cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch y\u00eau c\u1ea7u nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n thay v\u00ec hy v\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd \u0111o\u00e1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eadn ra m\u00ecnh \u0111ang tr\u1edf n\u00ean ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng l\u1eafng nghe tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i. \u0110\u00f4i khi, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n \u2013 v\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u2013 nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c quay l\u1ea1i sau m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh c\u00e3i v\u00e0 n\u00f3i, \u201cT\u00f4i ngh\u0129 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng x\u1eed l\u00fd t\u1ed1t l\u1eafm. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1eed l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00f4ng?\u201d<\/p>

M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean th\u00f4ng qua c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch giao ti\u1ebfp kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t, trong khi t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n v\u00e0 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng gian \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u c\u00e1c m\u00f4 h\u00ecnh l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh c\u00e1c ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn m\u1edbi. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea7n c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh trong t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>

Nh\u01b0 Dee \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta, h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 \u201cm\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd k\u1ebft th\u00fac trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta\u201d. C\u00f3 l\u1ebd \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u1ea1c quan h\u01a1n cho c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi t\u1ea1i sao kh\u00f4ng ai d\u1ea1y ch\u00fang ta c\u00e1ch c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n: ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3<\/em> Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y d\u1ed7, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i k\u1ebft th\u00fac khi ch\u00fang ta r\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Xuy\u00ean su\u1ed1t lo\u1ea1t b\u00e0i n\u00e0y, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u, chuy\u00ean gia v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1eb7t quen thu\u1ed9c nh\u01b0 Dee Salmin, Ben Vasiliou, Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Raquel Peel v\u00e0 Hugh Mackay v\u1ec1 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9, t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ebfn xung \u0111\u1ed9t, giao ti\u1ebfp v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ch\u00fang ta v\u1eabn \u0111ang h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh.<\/p><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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Ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n ba ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00dac cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y c\u00e1ch x\u1eed l\u00fd nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 khi l\u1edbn l\u00ean. V\u1eady ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft xung \u0111\u1ed9t, l\u1eafng nghe khi b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 h\u00e0n g\u1eafn sau khi m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f4ng su\u00f4n s\u1ebb \u1edf \u0111\u00e2u? Ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u00f9ng kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta t\u00edch l\u0169y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00ean con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh \u2013 v\u00e0 t\u1ea1i sao kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd l\u00e0 qu\u00e1 mu\u1ed9n \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc m\u1edbi.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":31798,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_relevanssi_hide_post":"","_relevanssi_hide_content":"","_relevanssi_pin_for_all":"","_relevanssi_pin_keywords":"","_relevanssi_unpin_keywords":"","_relevanssi_related_keywords":"","_relevanssi_related_include_ids":"","_relevanssi_related_exclude_ids":"","_relevanssi_related_no_append":"","_relevanssi_related_not_related":"","_relevanssi_related_posts":"","_relevanssi_noindex_reason":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31780","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-article","relationship-couples","relationship-families","relationship-individuals","focus-communication","focus-conflict"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31780","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31780"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31780\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":32411,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31780\/revisions\/32411"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31798"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31780"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31780"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31780"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}