{"id":3899,"date":"2022-11-08T13:45:12","date_gmt":"2022-11-08T02:45:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/get-over-cheating-ex\/"},"modified":"2025-04-24T14:46:50","modified_gmt":"2025-04-24T04:46:50","slug":"heartbreak-after-youve-been-cheated-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/vi\/blog\/heartbreak-after-youve-been-cheated-on\/","title":{"rendered":"Nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh n\u1ed7i \u0111au sau khi b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb l\u1eeba d\u1ed1i"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Chia tay kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd l\u00e0 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng - \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 khi c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn gian l\u1eadn. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i chia s\u1ebb m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 m\u1eb9o \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i v\u00f2ng suy ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i s\u1ebd cho ph\u00e9p b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfn l\u00ean ph\u00eda tr\u01b0\u1edbc v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3.<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u1ed9t v\u1ee3 m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00e3 cam k\u1ebft l\u00e0 ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n ra r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng chung th\u1ee7y<\/a>. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec, gian l\u1eadn l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f2n gi\u00e1ng m\u1ea1nh. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, n\u00f3 g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i tho\u00e1t, x\u00e1c nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng nghi ng\u1edd t\u1eeb l\u00e2u c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

D\u00f9 trong ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0o, ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 vi ph\u1ea1m nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng l\u00f2ng tin. Ngay c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng nh\u1ea5t, kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i ph\u00f3ng m\u1ed9t c\u01a1n s\u00f3ng th\u1ea7n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac d\u1eef d\u1ed9i: t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn, kinh ho\u00e0ng, nh\u1ee5c nh\u00e3, t\u1ef1 tr\u00e1ch m\u00ecnh, h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn, b\u1ecb b\u1ecf r\u01a1i v\u00e0 tuy\u1ec7t v\u1ecdng.<\/p>\n

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M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n \u0111au l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 m\u1ea5t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u01b0\u1edbng nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3i qua, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai.<\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t
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Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng r\u1ee7i ro su\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 kho\u1ea3ng 20%<\/a>, nh\u01b0ng con s\u1ed1 n\u00e0y s\u1ebd cao h\u01a1n n\u1ebfu t\u00ednh c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 giao h\u1ee3p. L\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u1ed9t v\u1ee3 m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed3ng, c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft ham mu\u1ed1n v\u00e0 khao kh\u00e1t trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. N\u1ebfu h\u1ecd v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ee9 m\u00ecnh c\u1ea7n, th\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00fac suy ng\u1eabm v\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u1ebfp tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh.<\/p>

M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ec7n minh cho s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng chung th\u1ee7y, nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng \u0111i theo con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p l\u00fd ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u00f3 v\u1ebb t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ch\u00fang ta.<\/p>

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M\u1ed9t b\u00e0i \u0111\u0103ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chia s\u1ebb b\u1edfi Janet, LCSW, Nh\u00e0 tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng (@therapy_with_janetb)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> \t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Sau khi ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh, \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c b\u1ecb 'l\u1eeba d\u1ed1i' s\u1ebd l\u1ee5c l\u1ea1i qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecf l\u1ee1, t\u00ecm ra nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 d\u1eb1n v\u1eb7t b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh dung v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. C\u00fa s\u1ed1c c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 ph\u1ea3n b\u1ed9i khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 t\u00ecm l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, t\u1eebng l\u00e0 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i, \u0111\u00e3 m\u1ea5t \u0111i. M\u1ed9t \u1ed5 \u0111\u0129a quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n l\u00e0 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i.<\/p>\n

L\u00fd do ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u01b0a ra cho s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng chung th\u1ee7y l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, trong khi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng vi\u1ec7n d\u1eabn s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c. Kh\u00e1c c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 r\u1ee7i ro ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi gian l\u1eadn<\/a> bao g\u1ed3m:<\/p>\n