{"id":8709,"date":"2023-01-10T12:33:08","date_gmt":"2023-01-10T01:33:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/?p=8709"},"modified":"2025-04-16T17:04:23","modified_gmt":"2025-04-16T07:04:23","slug":"toxic-relationship-signs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/zh\/blog\/toxic-relationship-signs\/","title":{"rendered":"\u6709\u6bd2\u5173\u7cfb\u7684\u8b66\u544a\u4fe1\u53f7\u662f\u4ec0\u4e48\uff1f"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"8709\" class=\"elementor elementor-8709\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-71f012b0 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"71f012b0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f3a952e elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"f3a952e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/qK7QXQiyTRE&quot;,&quot;autoplay&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;play_on_mobile&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3a0471d6 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"3a0471d6\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d12862e elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"d12862e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2e54bb2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2e54bb2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h6><span lang=\"EN-GB\" xml:lang=\"EN-GB\" data-contrast=\"auto\">Does your relationship add to or detract from your overall happiness and self-esteem? We share some of the warning signs of toxic partnerships, and how to get out \u2013 safely \u2013 if you\u2019ve realised that your relationship is causing you more harm than good.<\/span><\/h6>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1452198c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1452198c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>If we were to reflect for a moment on the health of our relationships \u2013 intimate partners, parents, siblings and other relatives, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/importance-of-having-friends\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">friends<\/a>, colleagues, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/managers-accidental-counsellors\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">employers<\/a> \u2013 we would no doubt identify a few that are not as healthy as they could be, some we have outgrown, and maybe one in particular that seems to have a consistent and negative impact on us.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In recent years, many psychological buzzwords have entered our thinking \u2013 and the word \u2018toxic\u2019 is one of them.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5db50470 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"5db50470\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8f91168 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8f91168\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>What is a toxic relationship?\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>As our society has become more interested in psychological thought, terms such as toxic relationships, gaslighting and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/relationship-with-a-narcissist\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">narcissism<\/a> have entered common language. Books, magazine articles and online sources abound on these topics.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>These concepts have helped us to become aware of relationship patterns that leave us feeling hurt or suffering. It can be quite a revelation when we awaken to how a relationship is not working for us and, in fact, is having a negative impact on our mental health.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If we find ourselves losing our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/group-workshops\/self-esteem-communication\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">self-esteem<\/a>, voice and value in a relationship, we are definitely in \u2018toxic\u2019 territory.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Toxic relationships include those that are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/types-of-domestic-violence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">violent, abusive<\/a>, and involve <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/what-is-gaslighting\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">gaslighting<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/what-is-coercive-control-signs\/\">coercive control<\/a>, but here we\u2019ll focus on the kind of relationships that leave us unhappy, drained and feeling bad 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margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/C0PxFHyJDn4\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by Relationships Australia NSW (@relationshipsnsw)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7627edd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7627edd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>How to identify a toxic relationship\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>Some of the following signs could be indicators of a toxic relationship:\u00a0<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Persistent unhappiness \u2013 feelings of sadness, anger, anxiety and resignation\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Lack of respect and constant conflict\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Competitiveness and jealousy\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Financial and social control\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Raising concerns and having them minimised, or dismissed\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">One person having to sacrifice their needs to keep the other happy\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When these elements are more deeply and pervasively eroding our feelings about ourselves and the relationship over time, they can\u2019t be written off as a bad period or one-off fight.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0f5f2cb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0f5f2cb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>How do relationships turn toxic?\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>A relationship can start off as seemingly healthy but end up becoming toxic over time.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>In some cases, one partner is more committed to pleasing the other and works hard to meet their partner\u2019s needs while sacrificing their own. They continue in the belief that their partner loves them and wants the best for them. But instead, their partner has become <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/what-is-gaslighting\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">controlling<\/a>, withholds love, and uses criticism to undermine their confidence.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The partner who wants to please has endured the situation for so long that they can be blind to how the power balance of the relationship has become uneven.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><strong><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fe00297 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"fe00297\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>What to do when you realise your relationship is toxic\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>It can be a shock to realise that you have been living in an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.relationshipsnsw.org.au\/blog\/types-of-domestic-violence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-wplink-edit=\"true\">emotionally abusive relationship<\/a> with a manipulative and controlling significant other who really doesn\u2019t care enough about you and has undermined your belief in yourself.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Once you realise your relationship is going through more than just a rough patch, you may be confronted with many uncomfortable, distressing and even frightening considerations about whether to stay or go.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If it feels like you\u2019re in a toxic relationship, here\u2019s our advice on what steps to take next:\u00a0<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Reach out to friends or family<\/strong> who can listen and support you without judgement. Some may have been trying to tell you that you\u2019re not being treated well, and it\u2019s worth listening to their perspective.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li><strong>Be honest with yourself.<\/strong> What will it really take for the situation to change? Acknowledge to yourself if you have done all you can realistically do to try and improve things.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li><strong>Reflect on your levels of happiness and self-confidence<\/strong> now, as compared to an earlier version of yourself. Has your confidence grown, or diminished?\u00a0<\/li>\n<li><strong>Start developing healthy boundaries <\/strong>that convey to others that you expect to be treated well.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li><strong>Don\u2019t be too hard on yourself.<\/strong> It is understandable to hold on to hope about how good things used to be, or to be afraid of being alone, or to fear no one else will love you. Take it one step at a time.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li><strong>Focus on yourself.<\/strong> By continuing to blame your partner, you are giving them all the power and robbing yourself of the energy you need to move forward.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2a4745f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2a4745f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>How to help others who might be in a toxic relationship\u00a0<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Listen and let them know you believe in them, and care about them.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Reassure them they are not crazy, selfish, or any of the negative things that they may have been told.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Take care that your efforts to help don\u2019t become toxic too \u2013 avoid taking over or being critical.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Give them your perspective on their partner\u2019s poor behaviour gently, and with as much neutrality as possible.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Watch how much they can take in and stop when it seems too much.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Give them room and time to find their own way.\u00a0<\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;\uf0b7&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\">Offer suggestions for external help they can access, if they choose to do so.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-40a6bdf elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"40a6bdf\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2>Moving away from a toxic relationship will take work\u00a0<\/h2>\n<p>Deciding where to put your energy, what realistic hope you have for change and the workability of the situation need some objective consideration. It becomes more complicated when children and financial dependence are involved.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re stuck in your thinking or fearful about change, getting external help from a professional can be invaluable for finding a way forwards. Seeing a qualified couples\u2019 therapist together could help you both to look at change \u2013 if both of you have an investment in staying together. 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