“When I showed up to my first session, I thought to myself ‘I'm nothing like these blokes. I’m only here because my wife said our marriage depended on it. That’s what denial sounds like. I wasn’t yet willing to acknowledge that I hurt the people I cared about most – my family. People think that domestic violence is all about arguments. In my case, there were no arguments – and that was the problem. I would just shut things down then storm off or throw something and that would be the end of it. I didn’t think being physical like that was a bad thing, because that’s how it was when I was growing up. What I didn’t realise is how this looked through my kids’ eyes. They witnessed all this and it scared them shitless. What I’ve come to learn is that I didn't want to feel things. I was actually afraid of feelings because they can hurt. But if I don’t confront that hurt, I hurt my family. And I don’t ever want to be that person again.”