Zofia’s Story: Rebuilding Confidence as a Mum After Surviving Abuse

Clarissa, one of our Therapeutic Caseworkers who closely supports women and children experiencing violence, says people facing the realisation they are victim-survivors can be a “confronting experience”.

“Survivors of abuse often sit with challenging feelings of guilt or regret that they ‘should have done more’ to reject the abuse,” she says.

“Solace and healing comes from the concept of ‘resistance’ to the abuse, which indicates non-acceptance of the abuse whilst still in the relationship, even though the resistance may only be known to the survivor.”

One of the most significant parts of the program for Zofia was connecting with others in similar situations. Realising her feelings of confusion and self-doubt were shared by others helped her feel less isolated and part of a supportive community.

Clarissa says one of the most regular things she hears from clients is “I thought I was the only one”.

“A shared understanding of experience brings participants a sense of relief that they are understood,” she says. “They will often say that it is comforting to not have to explain themselves and be in a non-judgemental environment.”

Additionally, Clarissa shares that many benefit from hearing other people’s strategies for dealing with abusive ex-partners and find hope from people who are now in healthy relationships raising their children.

Zofia left the program feeling more empowered, supported, and confident in her ability to manage her emotions and navigate her co-parenting challenges. The program not only provided Zofia with practical tools but also fostered a sense of community and validation that proved invaluable in her journey towards healing and growth.

*Names and images have been changed.